If a woman is insecure and feels unloved that will be reflected in her behavior. She will appear nervous and jumpy because she is looking for attention and acceptance. We can never really welcome acceptance from others until we first learn to accept ourselves. If a woman gets engaged and goes to work the next day her friends and co-workers will be able to tell by her face that something is going on because her eyes and smile will be radiant. Now she is still the same person but because of what is on the inside it shows up really clearly on the outside. That is why it is so important for women to realize how foolish it is to listen to those messages from the media and others which only cause depression.
Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique, you are special. You are one of a kind and when you accept that and live your life with that kind of confidence it will be reflected on the outside. You will have a lot more confidence and assurance in life because now you are not looking for acceptance from outside of your own soul, you have it already because you accept yourself. Trust me, others will be drawn to you and want to be around you because they will see and sense the assurance you have and.
Now men can also learn from this because we too go through our own insecurities. If we don't look like George Clooney or Brad Pitt we can have an inferiority complex. We get bombarded with the same kind of silly messages. We need to turn a deaf ear to them and work on what is on our inside. In life we need to spend more time developing our inner being than we do on our outward appearance. No matter how many plastic surgeries we have we are still going to die and pass on to somewhere else. The only thing we will take with us is whatever is inside us. So work on that. Develop character instead of worrying about changing your outside. Do the practical stuff like exercise and eating better. That will help a lot but don't forget to feed your soul and mind. That is where true abundant life dwells.
By Gerry Hartigan